Make sure you go to school and get a degree. Make sure your image is good and build a network. How is work going for you? Don’t buy that you need to be financially stable. You don’t have enough credit, come back in 6 months.
So many questions, suggestions, and criticism. It is all for the best though, right? It will just make me stronger and a harder worker, right?
I like to think that I have it all together, or at least that is how I used to feel…
A few things that I have learned:
- I do not have it all “together”.
- Every single day I learn something new.
- Things are not always how they seem.
- Don’t expect, just appreciate.
- It is ok to make mistakes.
I have always believed that I needed to have a purpose for my actions, for the most part this is true, but I recently realized that I have been obsessive about my every word, action, and reaction. This obsession has started to become overwhelming and stressful. The thought of others perceiving me differently than what I imagined in my own head seemed to be a living nightmare. Failure just has not been an option in my head. I am a competitive person by nature and failing as a person has seemed like the worst thing that could happen in my life. It is true we are our worst critics.
A person with this mindset will learn that life does not work in orderly fashion, and if they do not learn this, their blood pressure and anxiety must be off the charts to say the least. I myself have been stressing for so long and for what? I have gained nothing from stressing but acne and a bad attitude towards those that care the most for me. None of the above really sound ideal when I break it down.
So when I put my God gifted brain to work, I came up with these 5 rules for myself! I believe that my five rules help me overcome the harsh expectations that I sometimes have for myself and I am a little freer when I actually listen to them.
So no, I do not have it all together because I am a human and my life is not written in a script! Every single day I do learn something new whether it be about myself or the world around me. Over analyzing situations in the past has caused me to trust fewer people only to find out that it was all in my head. Things are not always how they seem, don’t let your mind play tricks on you! Quit expecting a picture perfect moment and life to play out like a fairytale! You will miss so many memories and good times dwelling on “how it should be”, learn to appreciate the moments you have right now. Lastly, it is completely OK to make mistakes! We are human, we are sinners, and we are not perfect.
Love yourself because you deserve to and fight for your own peace within!
The Southern Gypsy by Kiley Thomas is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial 4.0 International License.
Based on a work at https://thesoutherngypsy.net/.